Early on in our relationship, I'd get so angry at my husband for his constant freak outs. 7 Tips for Supporting a Romantic Partner with Anxiety ... while writing my book Hi, Anxiety: ... will likely rev into high gear and assume that something infinitely worse is afoot. So now you’re probably thinking, “Well if fighting my anxiety doesn’t work, am I just stuck with it forever? And, for better and for worse, my girlfriend does not. And even so, some people end up in counseling themselves to try to understand how to help themselves deal with their partner’s anxiety. I used to make my partner my whole world instead of part of my world and realised it was extremely unhealthy and wearing us both down, but trying to get to that mature and healthy relationship we both want has caused this anxiety. It can cause distress in the relationship as a whole as well. Who could blame you? The worst thing you can do is shame us about our anxiety. I guarantee it forces your spouse to be vulnerable, so treat them with care. For example, my husband of 18 years gets upset whenever I have trouble making a decision, but when I do make a decision even if it does not directly affect him, he will point out how it was wrong or not the right decision. Does anyone have a partner/spouse who does things that makes the anxiety worse? But because you have no control over your feelings (no matter what anyone says), trying to rid yourself of anxiety only makes it worse. 4. It kept me off planes and at home, and I disappointed myself, but I got through it alone, unwatched. You fell in love with this person for a reason, don’t lose sight of that! A bit ironic! God has used my anxiety to stretch both my husband and me. It has caused frustration and disconnect, but it has also caused honesty and closeness. Be present. 4. And, secondly, it sends the message that there really is something to fear, which only fuels their anxiety… My boyfriend makes me feel worse about my anxiety.. ... My boyfriend makes me feel worse about my anxiety.. Im 31 with anxiety..I've had it pretty much my entire life but have gained quite a bit of control over it (less panic attacks etc) so I was quite proud. They can no more snap out of their illness than you can snap out of cancer. Just remember to persevere. Because I guarantee your spouse didn’t ask to have anxiety. If you make the effort to understand, your partner will appreciate it more than you know. Partner who makes worse? My anxiety cause me to freak out and close out how attractive he is to me and make scenarios in my head that aren’t there. Pray for them. We explore this even more on this page, and we encourage you to read it if you're looking for tips to help someone with anxiety. This sort of thing happens to me a lot; I have anxiety. Hey! 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